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The study involved 2,035 married participants in an online assessment of marriage called “RELATE.” According to the study, people who waited until marriage: “Most research on the topic is focused on individuals’ experiences and not the timing within a relationship,” study author Dean Busby, Ph D, a professor in Brigham Young University’s School of Family Life, says in a news release.
“There’s more to a relationship than sex, but we did find that those who waited longer were happier with the sexual aspects of their relationship.” It may be that couples report greater satisfaction and sexual quality if they’ve waited because the extra time gives them longer to learn about each other and develop the skills necessary for good relationships, Busby says.
I realize that's not that old, but for 28 years before this, I sought love and was consistently rejected, but in time, God provided, and abundantly beyond measure. That's what it feels like to be in a relationship where you don't have to deal with worrying about putting out or the stress of being the sole sexual gatekeeper in the relationship. I had always compromised a bit, so instead I made a list of my real non-negotiables. I then got on OKCupid, answered like 200 questions, and set my search parameters for someone local-ish who met my criteria and matched at 90% or higher. I got involved in local young adult groups (actually, helped get one going).
A few months later, I found this guy on OKCupid and it's the best thing ever.
Mark Regnerus, Ph D, of the University of Texas, who wasn’t involved with the study, says it suggests to him that couples who “prioritize sex promptly at the outset of a relationship often find their relationships underdeveloped when it comes to the qualities that make relationships stable and spouses reliable and trustworthy.” He is the author of a forthcoming book titled “Premarital Sex in America,” being published by Oxford University Press.
Busby and colleagues controlled for the influence of religious involvement in their analysis because it often plays a role on when couples choose to initiate sex.
I was in a relationship for 4 years, and tensions continued to get higher because I wanted to wait, and he didn't believe in waiting.
This was more of me just wanting to rant about the struggles of being abstained in these times at my age--I have met so many guys who otherwise would have been perfect matches, just didn't share the same beliefs in sex as me.
Have you tried going to Catholic events similar to this?
World Youth Day, a Eucharistic conference, retreats, etc.?
The answer is marriage, and marriage for the Catholic, first and foremost, is not about the consolations of friendship, sex, and childbearing, but about the sacrament for the saving of one's soul. Hijacking this guy's thread because he's the top comment and I'm his girlfriend so there.
That sacramental grace can be there with another baptized person who doesn't share complete commitment to the faith, but it's harder. Find consolation in that love, and offer up your suffering, because I get it, it sucks. :)I know how terrible it feels to feel like you have to put out or a guy won't stay with you.