The new rules for love
No one wants to watch a movie about a happily married couple. Fairy tales end with “and they lived happily ever after” because actually watching two people live happily ever after would be like watching paint dry.
But there’s nothing boring about actually living happily ever after — and you can, provided you come to understand that “happily ever after” requires preparation and changing your mind-set. If you date with the idea that you’re on a quest for the right person, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
The brand of love Paul describes is a nonnegotiable for those desiring to sustain the chemistry and romance that make the early days of a relationship so exhilarating.
Romance is sustained by patience, kindness, humility, and a short memory.
In the back of the book is a small-group video discussion guide.
We asked leaders to read the book, especially focusing on chapters 1, 6, 9, and 10 (the chapters the videos address).
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.The New Rules for Love, Sex and Dating: Unveils what God says that will lead to success in dating and marriage, Transforms guys way of thinking about women, Reveals common myths about sex outside of marriage, Prepares men and women to one day say 'I do' and mean it, And much more.'If you don't want a marriage like the majority of marriages, then stop dating like the majority of daters! But over time, all of that is eventually squashed by our unbridled, selfish, self-preserving natures. Granted, we know how to turn them all on when we’re winning and wooing. What come naturally are passion, lust, chemistry, and that “can’t wait to get you alone” feeling.So for the price, I thought I would see what the good pastor has to say. Sex is a powerful binding element in human relationships, but it does not guarantee longevity in a committed relationship.He states the way to resolve your relationship issues is with a clear head before you get involved with sex.Think about some popular movies, TV shows, and songs about romance. Healthy relationships don’t result from pursuing desirable qualities on a check-list.What do they indicate about our culture’s current rules regarding love, sex, and dating? While none of those things come naturally, every one of them is necessary. Hello, I guess I just haven’t met the right person. It’s a myth to think that once you meet the right person, you will become a different person. Only you can prevent your impatience, unkindness, pride, anger, and record keeping from undermining your relationship.” ― “The best way to know if someone is prepared to commit is to examine his or her prior commitments.Otherwise our wounds, insecurities, and parental implants will become the driving forces and send the relationship in a bad direction. The love of your life should bring out the best in you. If you want to know how someone will behave tomorrow, take a look at what he or she did yesterday.” ― “So, leveraging Jesus’ teaching on love, Paul gives us the grown-up version of what love really is. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.